The story of Alexis is one of pain, transformation, and purpose. In this episode, we dive into how a life coach became a death doula after losing her mother to suicide, and how that journey led her to help others live more meaningful lives. Her experience is emotional, but it is also filled with lessons about healing, resilience, and the way purpose can grow out of unimaginable loss.
More than ten years ago, Alexis’ entire world changed when her mother passed away due to mental health struggles. The grief was heavy and overwhelming. She struggled with dark thoughts, confusion, and a deep sense of loneliness. In the middle of this emotional storm, she held onto one thought that kept her going: “The people who love me don’t deserve to lose me too.” That simple sentence became the thread she held onto during her hardest days. It helped her survive moment to moment, and later guided her toward a new direction in life.
As she worked through her own healing, Alexis began to notice something important. Most people only realize what truly matters when death is close. Through volunteering and eventually training as a death doula, she began supporting individuals and families during the end-of-life process. She heard the same regrets repeated over and over—people wishing they had loved more, lived more, forgiven more, or simply spent their time differently. Alexis realized these lessons shouldn’t arrive at the end of life. They should shape the way we live now.
Her work as a death doula naturally connected to her role as a life coach. Both parts of her journey revolve around one powerful truth: life is short, and people should not wait until it’s too late to start living with intention. She now helps her clients build self-worth, break old patterns, create healthier habits, and learn how to value themselves. Many people struggle with believing they are worthy of change. Alexis uses both compassion and humor to remind them of their potential. If people with half their capability can succeed, she tells them, then they can too.
For anyone dealing with addiction, grief, or a lack of purpose, Alexis’ message comes from a place of lived experience. She understands darkness, which is why her advice feels real and grounded. She encourages people to give themselves one more day each time they feel overwhelmed. If you can’t walk, crawl. If you can’t crawl, rest. Just don’t quit. Purpose doesn’t show up perfectly. It grows slowly—through tiny steps, forgiving yourself, and trying again.
Alexis also talks openly about grief and the idea of closure. She believes closure doesn’t mean forgetting someone or ending pain completely. Grief doesn’t disappear; it changes shape. Healing is about learning to carry love and loss together without letting it stop your life.
Her work also includes protecting the wishes of dying clients, which is often one of the hardest parts of her job. Sometimes people who have been absent suddenly want involvement. Alexis stands as the advocate who ensures boundaries are respected. She has also built a trusted network of professionals—therapists, lawyers, funeral directors—so families never have to face these moments alone.
Her journey is a reminder that purpose often rises from pain. Alexis turned her loss into a path that helps others find peace, meaning, and the strength to keep living. Her story shows that no matter how dark life becomes, there is always a way to transform your story and rediscover why your life matters.